When you consider all that’s required on a day-to-day basis, such as working long hours, doing the shopping, keeping your house clean, raising your children, and coping with all the problems of everyday life, it can be a heavy mental load for one person to carry.
The ‘mental load’ can be considered as all the things you need to think about to meet the needs of your home. A great responsibility, albeit exhausting, which we would like to relieve a little sometimes. So, how do you ease your mental load?
1. Talk about it
It is important to make yourself understood by those around you. In particular, talk to your partner, spouse, or housemates, and make them understand that you live under the same roof, therefore the tasks you perform are the same, and you have to share them.
Then everyone can assign themselves the tasks that suit them best, ensuring the workload is evenly distributed. Besides, why not do them together?
You can also discuss it with other people. You will realize then that you are certainly not alone in this situation, which reassures and relieves, and will allow you to find solutions!
If you are short of time or energy, consider delegating the tasks that can be done by others. The person who lives with you must be able to relieve you when you need it, and thus participate in keeping the home in order.
For household chores, people whose work takes up all their time, who live alone or who are too old, may encounter difficulties. For this, there are housekeepers. For example, why not consider getting a housekeeper to help out?
In the same way, do not hesitate to involve your children by attributing to them simple tasks, adapted to their age! Setting the table, storing clothes, vacuuming or even helping in cooking, allow them to participate in family life while teaching them to fend for themselves.
3. Give yourself rest
Do not forget to rest, and take time for yourself. Easier said than done? For example, you could give yourself a 10 to 15 minute break between each completed task, to read, meditate or even doze.
And why not take a half day sometimes, when children are at school for example, and take the time to take time for you? To practice a sporting activity, to go to the cinema, to see friends or to take a good bath.
Also, think of going on a weekend alone, without your spouse or children, so you can take time off and unwind. You will come back more rested!
4. Set the bar lower
If everything is not perfect, it is not done in immediately and it does not shine, it does not matter. We impose unnecessary demands upon ourselves because we want to do what’s best, but we end up exhausted. It is not worth imposing a perfection that will only overload us. Do what’s necessary, yes, but no more!
5. Get organized
Remember to organize your time consistently. Chain tasks according to logic, without scattering. The more fluid you are, the more time you save! For example, avoid going back and forth from room to room, or changing activity every 2 minutes. If you are vacuuming, go all the way to the end rather than stopping to go to store things or hang clothes. Everything in it’s time.
Remember to list your priorities. This allows you to see more clearly, not to forget anything and therefore not stress. Prioritize what needs to be done quickly, and do not hesitate to postpone what is not urgent.
6. Be positive
All the tasks you do for your home, however painful or boring, are necessary for its proper functioning. We often tend to do them mechanically, but if we did them conscientiously, we would be much more satisfied.
And if no one else does, learn to thank yourself for managing all these daily tasks. You do not have to see them as chores, because that would weigh on your mind, but rather as useful and beneficial obligations to your home.
Your work is important. So you are too!